The Comfortably Unabashed
Trillian: "Can we drop your ego for a moment. This is important."
Zaphod: "If there is anything more important than my ego around, I want it caught and shot now."
Immortal lines from "The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy", by Douglas Adams
What makes people like Zaphod and Calvin so lovable by the neutral distant observer (with a stress on distant[:D]) is the fact that they speak their mind. They are not corrupted by the social definition of correctness. They are self centered to the helm and care a paisa for what the world thinks of them. In the words of Bill Watterson, "Calvin is pretty easy to do because he is outgoing and rambunctious and there's not much of a filter between his brain and his mouth."
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So why is the average humble person so, well, humble? Does he really feel that all men are equal in the eye of the divine and hence it makes no sense to feel superior to any one. Is it a humility which has arisen out of greatness, out of suffering or is it merely a social function which he feels obligated to do so as to stay away from the lime light or as is more frequently the case the unshielded light of attention and criticism. A genuinely humble person is almost as rare a find as an intelligent and unemotional investor [;)] and therefore we will leave him out of this discussion.
Affected humility is almost always easily detectable and as frequently found to be disgusting (and to a few rare and gifted eyes, amusing [;)]) and yet almost all of us are guilty of this trait. Why? Simply because that seems to be the most socially correct thing to do. The main reason for this feeling is to put in one word - Shame. Fear of being seen as not appropriately dressed - in clothing and(/or/rather most frequently) attitude. All of us have something to hide. Something we are not proud of because we do not see that in our own individual definition of a perfect personality which in turn is shaped by societal perceptions.
The Comfortably Unabashed, is he who has accepted his personality completely. He loves himself unconditionally and is most comfortable with the company of his self. Something few among us can relate to.
These people can be extremely annoying and yet such is their charm (which I have come to believe is mostly self-acceptance, self-comfort and self-love[Moment of Epiphany ;)]) that it is impossible to hold your grudge against them. Despite all their not-so-pretty traits one does catch himself hoping that they where more like them.
Also there is no better person to have around when you are hating yourself. Their self love is so infectious, that we often catch it faster than the World catching the American Economic Sneeze[:P]. And of course there is no time when they are more utilised than at parties. Are they Ice-Breakers or what?
Is it now time for us to give up the affected humility which self-talks us into believing that we may not actually be as good as we think we are? Is this an idea whose time has come? As one such Comfortably Unabashed person I know of frequently says, "Think about it." [;)]
Immortal lines from "The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy", by Douglas Adams
What makes people like Zaphod and Calvin so lovable by the neutral distant observer (with a stress on distant[:D]) is the fact that they speak their mind. They are not corrupted by the social definition of correctness. They are self centered to the helm and care a paisa for what the world thinks of them. In the words of Bill Watterson, "Calvin is pretty easy to do because he is outgoing and rambunctious and there's not much of a filter between his brain and his mouth."
[Click on image to Enlarge it]So why is the average humble person so, well, humble? Does he really feel that all men are equal in the eye of the divine and hence it makes no sense to feel superior to any one. Is it a humility which has arisen out of greatness, out of suffering or is it merely a social function which he feels obligated to do so as to stay away from the lime light or as is more frequently the case the unshielded light of attention and criticism. A genuinely humble person is almost as rare a find as an intelligent and unemotional investor [;)] and therefore we will leave him out of this discussion.
Affected humility is almost always easily detectable and as frequently found to be disgusting (and to a few rare and gifted eyes, amusing [;)]) and yet almost all of us are guilty of this trait. Why? Simply because that seems to be the most socially correct thing to do. The main reason for this feeling is to put in one word - Shame. Fear of being seen as not appropriately dressed - in clothing and(/or/rather most frequently) attitude. All of us have something to hide. Something we are not proud of because we do not see that in our own individual definition of a perfect personality which in turn is shaped by societal perceptions.
The Comfortably Unabashed, is he who has accepted his personality completely. He loves himself unconditionally and is most comfortable with the company of his self. Something few among us can relate to.
These people can be extremely annoying and yet such is their charm (which I have come to believe is mostly self-acceptance, self-comfort and self-love[Moment of Epiphany ;)]) that it is impossible to hold your grudge against them. Despite all their not-so-pretty traits one does catch himself hoping that they where more like them.
Also there is no better person to have around when you are hating yourself. Their self love is so infectious, that we often catch it faster than the World catching the American Economic Sneeze[:P]. And of course there is no time when they are more utilised than at parties. Are they Ice-Breakers or what?
Is it now time for us to give up the affected humility which self-talks us into believing that we may not actually be as good as we think we are? Is this an idea whose time has come? As one such Comfortably Unabashed person I know of frequently says, "Think about it." [;)]
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